April 16, 2008 – Happy Birthday M.i.l.e.s!
M.i.l.e.s is a cool kid. At 12 years old, he is a comfortable traveler who has had the luxury and challenge of having 3 of his past 4 birthdays away from home. Numbers 10 and 12 in M.e.x.i.c.o; number 9 in London. He’s missed out on a bunch of traditionally camaraderie at home as a result, but he easily drops in to wherever he ends up, and is a budding diplomat. (Don’t worry. I don’t treat him in the same detached way that I just wrote about him.)
Planning M.i.l.e.s’s birthday was an adventure. The last time we were here, a classmate had a birthday and the family bought pizza, cake, and drinks for the class: 7 kids. However, last week another kid had a birthday, and the parents poured it on for the whole school: 40 kids. They provided a piñata, drinks, loot bags full of candy, birthday cake, and hot dogs with a slew of condiments. M.i.l.e.s and J.i.l.l were blown away at how much their classmates could wolf down at 9:30 in the morning. (Future Mexican President, Eduardo, managed to eat 4 hot dogs. By the time he gets to Los Pinos (where the President lives in the D.F.) he won’t be able to fit through the door.)
There was plenty of conversation and thought among ourselves, and with Miriam and Alli’s advice, regarding how much we should provide for a birthday party. We didn’t want to appear unappreciative and stingy, but we also didn’t want to meet or raise the bar regarding crazy birthday standards. It isn’t an unfamiliar debate at home either (though few have accused us of pushing the outer limits at home when they see my crafted-from-paper-bags piñatas in Hinesburg: one of them looked like a bad day at the wrong end of Shrek).
We finally settled on a cake for the whole school, little bags of munchies for everyone, a small juice bottle each, and a bolley (long o). A bolley is plastic bag/tube of flavored water that is frozen before a person bites one end and sucks on it. (We screwed up and didn’t put ours in the freezer soon enough, but they were slushy.) And Coke and Diet Coke for the teachers. Settled.
Except that Miriam and I ran into the hot dog parents the other morning as we were leaving school. We compared notes on birthday planning, and despite his best efforts, the dad was full of advice. We could buy hot dogs and pancake batter and make our own pigs in a blanket and then put little flags in them, and numerous other ideas, but I zoned out, and Miriam reaffirmed our earlier plan once we were back in the car.
Next level of cross cultural experience in Mexico: Ordering a school-sized birthday cake at the bakery at Wal-mart that met Mile’s expectations for flavor, color and design. Sizes are by the kilo, not solely by dimensions, and then there is “dry” cake versus “tres leches”. Dry is closest to what we serve in the States. Tres leches is delicious but is a mess once you get bigger than a piece. We placed our order a few days in advance, and hoped for the best and prepared for the worst. We picked up our other supplies at various locations throughout Merida, more than offsetting any cost savings with time and fuel consumption. By the way, in Mexico, Wal-mart is not the low quality discounter it is in the States (they own a separate chain for that). Wal-mart in Mexico is at least a level up, more along the lines of Target in the States, except they always have a supermarket inside. (Miriam had offered us Costco and Sam’s Club as well, but I’m short on cash and long on credit, and preferred to use my credit card at Wal-mart, which likely wouldn’t have been an option at the other two.)
Today was the big day. Miriam and I dropped the kids off at school and hung around the customary little while. Hot Dog father asked Miriam what our plans were, and when he heard he said to his wife, “Why didn’t we do that?! Remember all the food that ended up in the garbage?!”
Before Miriam and I left the school, the principal gathered all the kids in the courtyard to sing Happy Birthday to the birthday children. “Children”?! Oh, it was Abram’s birthday today also. Oh crap! There was either going to be a sugar and fat bonanza times two later in the morning, or a completely uncomfortable imbalance between how the birthday kids were treated. We immediately witnessed the latter, not the former.
(Oops, I was just interrupted by the telephone. Yup, once again Enrique and Miriam have left their operation to my inept hands. The phone call? An automated message asking me to press 6 if I wanted my eyeglasses repaired.)
The entire school sang Happy Birthday to Miles in English and Spanish, completely ignoring Abram even though the poor kid stood next to M.i.l.e.s. (Remember, M.i.l.e.s is a sweet kid with a deep sense of diplomacy and fairness. We were going to have to come up with something.)
Ruth, Miriam and I headed off to Wal-mart to pick up the cake (along the way Miriam shared gruesome stories of well publicized drug trafficking assassinations and decapitations--well publicized to better intimidate people.) At Wal-mart, Ruth wisely veered off to buy something for Abram, while I headed to the bakery with my fingers crossed. A beautiful cake was waiting with “Feliz Cumpleanos Miles!” on top. No room to add “Abram” but at least they spelled Feliz with a “z”. When they had taken the order, Ruth had to remind them how to spell “feliz” after they initially spelled it with an “s”.
Off to school, and though I could offer all sorts of thoughts and observations about how kids treat one another, a wonderful party was had by all. (Even though we arrived to find Jill nearly in tears. Today was P.E. day at school. The gym teacher was trying to teach the kids how to do handsprings(?) and had some small pieces of foam on top of the concrete. No spotting was offered and Jill took a dive. Our little skin and bones gal was in some serious pain, but she pulled it together.)
The gringos made sure Abram got some attention and a gift since it was evident his parents had not attempted to compete in the Grand Party Competition. And Ruth held future President Eduardo at bay when he asked for more food. Not a whole lot of food got wasted, though there was enough that one teacher brought a bunch of plate scrapings home to her 5 dogs. (We didn’t want to think what would happen if our dog ate that stuff.)
Happy Birthday M.i.l.e.s, you’re a cool kid!

